Long Distance Relationships work
When couples are separated geographically by a big distance it’s said that they are having a long distance relationship. There is a common belief that long distance relationships don’t work and while I am not completely against that belief, still I am not completely with it. The aim of this article is not to prove whether long distance relationships work or not, but its aim is to explain the problems that sometimes accompany long distance relationships from a psychological view point so that you could avoid these problems.
The Problem with Long Distance Relationships
In the psychology of convincing article I mentioned how the subconscious mind can be convinced to believe in something through repetition. The rule is simple,If you kept repeating a belief over and over you may eventually believe in it.
This rule works in relationships too; the more you see your partner the more you will become convinced that you will always be together (on the condition that you really love each other).
The problem with long distance relationships is that the couple don’t see each other for long periods of time to the extent that they sometimes experience weird feelings when they meet again. In this case both of them slowly lose intimacy and end up with separation.
The internet & Long distance Relationships
When the relationship starts through the internet without the couple seeing each other the problem becomes even bigger. Some relationships become solely based on the internet to the extent that each one of them doesn’t know how the other looks like. They fall in love, suffer from pain and even become depressed on break-ups without even seeing each other.
The biggest problem with an internet based relationship is that when the couple meet or see each other in the real world they may discover that they have made the completely wrong choice. This happens because of the violation of the subconscious criteria, which is a criterion each one has for his future partner. Since this criteria can’t be verified trough the internet the result is the termination of the relationship soon after the first meeting.
The internet is a good method to maintain your long distance relationship that already started when you were physically located together but it’s not a good place to start a new relationship.
Long distance Relationships Tips
If you want to maintain your long distance relationship you should stick to the following practices:
* See each other whenever you can, this prevents loss of intimacy
* Use a webcam instead of ordinary chatting
* Inform each other about every single event that is taking place in your lives
* Make sure that the long distance relationship is going to be a temporary and short period
* Make clear plans to live together as soon as you can